12 spiritual steps and related scriptures

1. We admitted we were powerless over the effects of our separation from God - that our lives had become unmanageable. Romans 7:18

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Philippians 2:13

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God. Romans 12:1

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Lamentations 3:40

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. James 5:16a

6. We're entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. James 4:10

7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. 1 John 1:9

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. Luke 6:31

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Matthew 5:23-24

10. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. 1 Corinthians 10:12

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. Colossians 3:16a

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. Galatians 6:1

(Taken from "The Twelve Steps - A Spiritual Journey", RPI Publishing, Inc., San Diego)

12 steps of a sponsor

1. I will not help you stay and wallow in limbo.

2. I will help you grow to become more productive by your own definition.

3. I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more free to continue becoming the authority of your own living.

4. I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up", simply because I cannot.

5. I cannot give you growth or grow for you. You must grow yourself by facing reality, grim as it may seem at times.

6. I cannot take away your loneliness or pain.

7. I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your goals, or tell you what is best for you in your world. You have your own world.

8. I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of not growing.

9. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend, yet I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow.

10. When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic, bad, and inhibiting for you and for me.

11. You must know - my help is conditional. I will be with you, hang in there with you, as long as I continue to get even the slightest hints that you are trying to grow.

12. If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what God meant for us to be...mature adults, leaving childishness forever to little children.

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